The other day I was leaving to run some errands. My mind was all over the place engulfed by thoughts about a million things and I was also in a big hurry because I had to get back by a certain time.  As soon as I opened the car door, I realized I had forgotten the shoes I wanted to return. At least I hadn’t left yet.  I ran (well, walked fast) back into the house to get them and returned to the car.  Then I remembered something else I needed to bring. I went upstairs to get what I forgot and completely forgot what it was. Chaos - ADHD

I just stood there in my bedroom with my mind a complete blank. What was it? Then I remembered I needed an envelope. I put my keys on the bed while I found the right envelope and got all the way out the door again before I realized my keys were not in my hand. Running up and down stairs is great exercise but not when you’re trying to leave. When I realized the state of chaos I was in, I did the following three things which really helped!

1. I stopped and took a deep breath. Then I moved my shoulder blades down from practically touching my ears into a relaxed position.

2. I consciously slowed my steps. I discovered awhile ago when I slow down my movements, it slows down my thoughts. I don’t know why, but it works. And it makes sense when you think of the mind/body connection.

3. I started talking out loud to myself in a soft voice. This may be harder to do in public but actually these days anyone watching would just think you’re talking into your Bluetooth.   I said, “You are going upstairs to get your keys and then you are going out to the car. The first thing you are going to do is … and then you are going to do …”  It’s kind of like an auditory prioritized to-do list that helps me slow down and be more in control.

So yes, I am an ADHD coach who suggests that you talk to yourself. But only sometimes.

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Mimi Handlin, MSW, is a certified Life and ADHD Coach. She has been coaching in Seattle and nationwide since 2003 and has a special interest in coaching women, college students, and young adults to help them live with more direction and success.

As well as helping her clients gain more control over the practical aspects of life, she is also a certified stress reduction coach and teaches interested clients skills in self-care, self-awareness, and relaxation to improve their well-being and better manage adult ADHD symptoms. Mimi is compassionate, non-judgmental, supportive, and flexible in her approach to coaching. If you are interested in learning how ADHD coaching can help you or a loved one, please schedule a free consultation below.
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