The diagnosis of ADHD in adults can be an eye opening moment. Knowing there is a neuro-biological reason for your challenges can cause both relief and sadness. The relief comes from knowing your often life-long difficulties are not your fault. The sadness comes from feeling a sense of grief over the “lost years” when you may have struggled without knowing why or felt like you could not measure up no matter how much you tried.
Many college students with attention deficit disorder find college easier than high school. After having to get up at the break of dawn to sit through 6-8 classes, taking 3-4 classes can feel like a luxury. And some colleges offer the choice of classes later in the day, which can be an added benefit for students who have a terrible time getting up in the morning. Continue reading “ADHD in College – A Tip to Feel More in Control” »
Procrastination is a common trait for women with attention deficit disorder. I don’t think most people put things off just because they don’t want to deal with it. In my experience as an ADHD coach, procrastination is usually connected to an executive functioning challenge. Here are some reasons why we procrastinate:
Does this sometimes frantic morning scenario resemble your life?
- Mom, there’s no more bread for sandwiches!
- Where’s my permission slip to go to the zoo today?
- Mom, Where are my clean socks?
- Mom, did you remember to sign me up for the art class?
- Can 3 of my friends come over after school today? And can you pick us up?
- You keep promising we’ll get the birthday present but the party is tomorrow!
- What’s for dinner?
Being a mom has its challenges. Continue reading “Tips for Moms with ADHD” »
Because ADHD was not diagnosed in girls until recently (the last decade or so), many women have had to endure a childhood of shame, being told they were lazy or they could do better if they just tried harder. And trying harder didn’t help. So they grew up feeling as if their challenges were because of a moral flaw or they were stupid or there was something intrinsically wrong with their character. Those feelings may have followed them into their teen years, young adulthood, and the present. Continue reading “How the Symptoms of ADHD Manifest in Women” »
As well as experiencing typical symptoms of attention deficit disorder such as being distracted, forgetful, overwhelmed, and stressed, another trait women with ADD/ADHD share is the tendency to beat themselves up. “What’s wrong with me?” “How can I be so stupid?” “Why can’t I be like other people who do everything right? And on time too!” Continue reading “Self-Compassion for Women with ADHD” »
Because attention deficit disorder affects women differently than how it affects men, many women are never diagnosed. They may live through their teens and adulthood feeling inadequate, anxious, or depressed without knowing the reason behind their challenges. Anxiety and depression can be co-occurring conditions or they can be a result of an undiagnosed woman feeling like there is something “wrong” with her and no matter how much she tries, she will never be able to measure up. Continue reading “ADHD and Women” »