Procrastination is a common trait for women with attention deficit disorder. I don’t think most people put things off just because they don’t want to deal with it. In my experience as an ADHD coach, procrastination is usually connected to an executive functioning challenge. Here are some reasons why we procrastinate:
Does this sometimes frantic morning scenario resemble your life?
- Mom, there’s no more bread for sandwiches!
- Where’s my permission slip to go to the zoo today?
- Mom, Where are my clean socks?
- Mom, did you remember to sign me up for the art class?
- Can 3 of my friends come over after school today? And can you pick us up?
- You keep promising we’ll get the birthday present but the party is tomorrow!
- What’s for dinner?
Being a mom has its challenges. Continue reading “Tips for Moms with ADHD” »
Because ADHD was not diagnosed in girls until recently (the last decade or so), many women have had to endure a childhood of shame, being told they were lazy or they could do better if they just tried harder. And trying harder didn’t help. So they grew up feeling as if their challenges were because of a moral flaw or they were stupid or there was something intrinsically wrong with their character. Those feelings may have followed them into their teen years, young adulthood, and the present. Continue reading “How the Symptoms of ADHD Manifest in Women” »
As well as experiencing typical symptoms of attention deficit disorder such as being distracted, forgetful, overwhelmed, and stressed, another trait women with ADD/ADHD share is the tendency to beat themselves up. “What’s wrong with me?” “How can I be so stupid?” “Why can’t I be like other people who do everything right? And on time too!” Continue reading “Self-Compassion for Women with ADHD” »
Because attention deficit disorder affects women differently than how it affects men, many women are never diagnosed. They may live through their teens and adulthood feeling inadequate, anxious, or depressed without knowing the reason behind their challenges. Anxiety and depression can be co-occurring conditions or they can be a result of an undiagnosed woman feeling like there is something “wrong” with her and no matter how much she tries, she will never be able to measure up. Continue reading “ADHD and Women” »
College can be both an exciting and challenging time. Some students gradually build their independence before they leave for college and have a good understanding of what it takes to succeed in life away from home. Others, especially those with executive functioning challenges and other symptoms of ADHD may find themselves lost, overwhelmed, or impulsively moving in the wrong direction when they are on their own for the first time.
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As an ADHD life coach, there is a strategy that I suggest to all of my adult ADHD clients because it has proven to be hugely helpful. I call it “A Planning Meeting with Myself.” Planning and prioritizing can be a challenge and sometimes everything seems equally important. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and stressed out because of all the things you have to do or feel you should be doing. What’s most important? What to do first?
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